Category: Relationships

  • How to Destroy Your Relationship

    Introduction A recent (when I wrote this in Aug 2022) article in The Australian described “How Good Men Make Bad Husbands”. While the article did not suggest that only men made bad spouses, many commenters took issue with the article for picking on men, for ignoring that women are also good at eroding relationships and…

  • Breathing for Mental and Bodily Calm

    Meditation, sports psychology, emotional intelligence and relationship counselling all give a central role to breathing for mental and bodily calm. Whether taking deep slow breaths, doing patterned breathing (like 4-7-8 breathing) or simply being aware of the breath, this basic bodily function is a gateway to calm. This is established practical knowledge in all the…

  • Anger and Relationship: Where Anger isn’t the Main Issue

    If you are in, or have been in a relationship then you’ve most likely been angry and have had anger directed at you. And we’ve all been in relationships, even if the latest for you is child with parent. However, it may be that anger isn’t the main issue. Anger is painful, both for the person…

  • Relationship Glue

    This article in Business Insider is a look at a central finding from John Gottman’s research into the relationship glue that keeps relationships working. This research informs the relationship therapy that Vivian and I practice. Relationship Glue In our relationships we are always communicating or attempting to communicate with our partner. Critical to relationship health are the…